It occurs to me that not all problems are simply two elements balanced against each other, but rather many elements locked together in an equilibrium. They present such a confusing structure that one does not know where to start to unbalance the problem.
These are sort of like a confusion AND a problem — a “problusion” or perhaps a “conflem”.
My life is very much in this state, and I suppose most any life is.
I imagine the fix would be something like pick any aspect and focus on it to change that one aspect, keeping in mind that the goal is to unbalance the puzzle problem.